Safety Planning

When leaving an abusive situation, remember to bring the following:

  • Children
  • Money
  • Keys (car, house, work, etc.)
  • Extra clothes
  • Medicine
  • Birth certificate(s)
  • Social Security cards
  • School and medical records
  • Credit cards and bank books
  • Driver’s license
  • Car registration
  • Welfare identification
  • Passports, green cards, work permits
  • Lease/Rental agreement
  • Mortgage payment book, unpaid bills
  • Insurance papers
  • PPO, divorce papers, custody orders
  • Address book
  • Things of sentimental value (photos, jewelry etc.)
  • Items for your children (clothes, toys etc.)

It is also helpful to make a safety plan with the following:

  • Numbers to call for help
  • Places to go for help/safety
  • Code word with friends and family
  • Names of people you can stay with, who can call the police, or who you can call for help

Tips for Dangerous Situations

  • Stay away from the kitchen, garage or other areas with items that can be used as weapons
  • Stay away from bathrooms, closets or other small areas where you could be trapped
  • Get to a room with a door or window to escape
  • Have a bag already packed and hidden in case you need to escape
  • Call 911 right away
  • Document all injuries and include pictures

Tips for after you have left

  • Change your schedule. Take different routes to class, work or home
  • Never travel alone
  • Avoid contact with your abuser
  • Change your phone number or get one that is unlisted
  • Cancel any joint bank accounts and open a new one
  • Keep your court order and emergency numbers with you at all times

Tips for Staying Safe Online

  • Remember what information you have about yourself online. Once this information is online, it is very difficult to erase from the internet (be protective of your personal information)
  • Change all of your passwords and PIN codes, and keep this information private
  • Keep your social media pages on private and unfriend your abuser
  • Open a new email account for personal communications, and keep hidden from your abuser
  • Remove personal information from websites and social media including phone numbers, emails, addresses and employers.
  • Turn off location services and check-ins on all devices.
  • Always cover your laptop camera with a sticker and remove only when needed.
  • Click links with caution. Social media accounts are regularly hacked. Look out for language or content that does not sound like something your friend would post.
  • If possible, purchase a new computer and cellphone (consider a pay as you go phone and using a computer at a library or of a trusted friend).
  • keep your friends in the loop: tell people not to post personal information, tag photos, or check-ins with you over social media

How to Stay Anonymous Online

  • You can search your name online and remove any public information listing your name, new address, or relationship status so you cannot be traced without your knowledge
  • Go to http://www.spokeo.com/and search your name.
  • Copy the url with your info then click “Privacy” at the bottom of the page
  • In a pop-up window, select “free removal” and paste the url and enter your email address
  • When you get a confirmation email, click the second link, then check back to make sure your info is removed